All About Love and Dating

There are things that we never want to let go of, people we never want to leave behind. But keep in mind that letting go isn’t the end of the world, it’s the beginning of a new life.
– Author Unknown

"When you know so much and are so close but so far from that great idea, the hardest thing to do is to let go. Yet sometimes this is a marvellous strategy that leads you to green and fertile pastures. "

"To live in this world, you must be able to do three things:
to love what is mortal; to hold it against your bones
knowing your own life depends on it;
and, when the time comes to let it go, to let it go."

To live in this world, you must be able to do three things:
to love what is mortal; to hold it against your bones
knowing your own life depends on it;
and, when the time comes to let it go, to let it go."

"Suffering is not holding you. You are holding suffering. When you become good at the art of letting sufferings go, then you’ll come to realize how unnecessary it was for you to drag those burdens around with you. You’ll see that no one else other than you was responsible. The truth is that existence wants your life to become a festival."

"One of these days you’ll realize how I was the one for you. How you threw it all away. And when that day comes, I’ll smile and tell you the same things you once told me. That you’re my friend. And that’s all I want us to be. And maybe, if you’re lucky, you’ll open your eyes, and see how those words can never be comforting. And you’ll never say them again." 

"We had said good-bye so many times before, but somehow our paths always managed to cross and we ended up in each other’s arms. But now when we said this good-bye I have this feeling that I will never see you again. And that really hurts because I know that we are meant to lead our own separate lives. And I honestly don’t wanna cross your path in the future cause I don’t want all these feelings to come back and have to try to get over all over again."

"I hate being put in this position.. I’m forcing myself to let go of the one person that I need in my life. He’s the only thing that makes sense, but at the same time, the one thing that complicates me.. I know that I’m better off without him, yet I feel empty whenever I try to let go…but I guess that emptiness is better than constant hurt." 

Thoughts about how and why we should act in the event that in a certain circumstance arises due to someone dear to you leaving for good?? Is a tough thing to do, more so if the actual thing happens. Others would say that you would start appreciating someone when that person leaves, as the saying goes reality bites and it bites you in the ass big time. Losing someone who means so much to you is like trying to walk without another leg or maybe trying to fly and not having the other wing attached. It is such a debilitating feeling, you feel so hopeless and helpless at the same time. The surreal experience of being with that person one day and not seeing the person the next is so unreal. You try to instill in your mind that it is just a dream, but when you start pinching yourself you realize it isnt. At the other end of the spectrum, you must understand the objective of the person who left. The purpose is to move on. You suddenly think that yeah it was bound to happen it was not a matter of why it was a matter of when and that matter was yesterday. You can never deny an individual their own personal wishes and objectives in life, everything has a reason. You may not like their decision but in the end, like how the cliché works if you really love and care for that person, you really have to let go sacrificing your personal happiness in exchange for the other is the ultimate sacrifice. Like what others would say, it takes time and strength to recover from a situation like that. Strange that when you give advise to your friends about love, life and everything under the sun you become the expert and provide objective opinions and ideas. But whenever you are in the situation where you are used to giving out advises, it such a heavy burden. Your objectivity gets clouded by your emotions and you start doubting yourself. (more…)

Letting go

By: Saldy

Time and time again, we come to a point in our romantic life that we would encounter a situation which would lead us to decide to let go of the person you love and have loved. People who go through this would ask themselves “Do I have to let go? How do I let go of him or her?”. When you get yourself into such a conundrum, your objectivity gets clouded by your emotions and sometimes hatred. Hatred is protracted result of misgivings, dishonesty, impertinence among others.

Of all the things that you may think of as a way to induce yourself to letting go and getting over that emotional hump, maybe loving again would suffice…………..

Surround yourself with love. Though this may seem to you the most impossible emotion to experience in the first stages following a separation, it is to become your course of action when you realize that love is the key to your control of self and to the door that is opening toward your new reality. Love is what brought you into your relationship and love is the power that will lead you to the meaningful resolution of your situation.

This decision to love must first take effect with reference to yourself and to the person from whom you are separating. You must love yourself for those qualities which brought you into the realm of that other person: your willingness to give of yourself and to take the risk of being hurt. And to love the other person in spite of the pain you are feeling is to allow that person the same freedom you will both need in order to move on. Love is a force that renews us and prepares us for tomorrow. Hatred is a shackle that keeps us tied to the past.

So drop the damn thing!!!

The one from whom you have separated will not soon be forgotten, though great distances may separate the two of you. Give the memory of that person the chance to help you by insisting on remembering the beautiful experiences that united you. The painful ones which separated you will need no coaxing from the memory. Turn your anger into love. Take the qualities you found in the other person and develop them in yourself, use them as a way of better experiencing your love for all the others who are important in your life. After all, those were qualities which brought you into love and they are no less worthy today.

Love has no guilt and no boundaries. In fact, it has no definition. Yes, it is the force which takes us out of ourselves so that we may share ourselves with others. Yet it is also the force that leads us into ourselves, so that we may understand and prepare ourselves for the act of giving. You cannot resolve the bitterness and pain of the separation you are experiencing by continuing to dwell on these feelings. Come alive with the force which is the essence of life itself. You are leaving one relationship, one stop in your journey. There is still a path before you. Walk in love.

Love and be loved…………