Here are some Tips on Problems in Relationships
Problem-solving strategies:
- Make time … yes, an actual appointment with each other, Shimberg says. If you live together, put the cell phones on vibrate, put the kids to bed, and let the answering machine pick up your calls.
- If you can’t "communicate" without raising your voices, go to a public spot like the library, park, or restaurant, where you’d be embarrassed if anyone saw you screaming.
- Set up some rules … like not interrupting until the other is through, banning phrases such as "You always …" or "You never …"
- Remember that a large part of communication is listening, so be sure your body language reflects that. That means, don’t doodle, look at your watch, pick at your nails, etc. Nod so the other person knows you’re getting the message and rephrase if necessary, such as, "What I hear you saying is that you feel as though you have more chores at home, even though we’re both working." If you’re right, the other can confirm, and if what the other person really meant was, hey, you’re a slob and you create more work for me by having to pick up after you, perhaps they’ll say so but in a nicer way.
All you mentioned are true but sometimes, LOVE is TOO STRONG to control your feelings. You may have reasons to engage yourself into a relationship such as this - having a bf or gf older or younger than you are but the thing is, it’s all about the commitment and the chemistry of handling a good relationship. These are natural reasons but there’s always a deeper basis once you are in that relationship. Just a thought. Thanks for the blog
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Comment by Cameron Sharpe — May 28, 2009 @ 10:58 am