- Be nonjudgmental. No man is going to let you into his real thoughts if he senses he is going to be criticized or put down. Leave out comments like "How could you do something like that?" or "That’s not something I would do."Give him the freedom to express himself openly and honestly without judgment and you’ll be surprised at all that comes out. You don’t have to condone or agree with everything he says. You’re simply creating an environment where he has the freedom to say it.
- Don’t use the word "why." When psychotherapists are in training, they are often taught to erase the word "why" from their vocabulary, because "why" questions frequently sound negative and critical.
When you ask a man, "Why did you do it that way?" it can come across as "Are you stupid, why on earth would you choose to do it that way?" Now he’s on the defensive before you even finish the sentence. Practice using substitutes such as "Tell me more about it" instead of "Why did you do it?" - Let him know you care about what he is saying. A man won’t open up to you unless he knows you care. One of the best ways to convey this to him is through your body language. To show your interest, unfold your arms, lean into him and allow your eyes to meet his in a natural way.
Let him know that you get what he is saying with a nod of the head or a raise of your brow.
Let him know that you get what he is saying
Also, try "mirroring," which means that you absorb his body movement and convey it back to him. So if he looks stressed telling a story, you look stressed as well. It’s like saying, "I feel what you are feeling. I’m putting myself in your shoes." - Never say, "We need to talk." Nothing makes a man want to talk less than hearing "We need to talk." It conveys the message that he’s done something wrong, he’s in trouble for it, and you are going to let him have it. He will shut down before the conversation starts. (more…)
May 28, 2008
How to Get Into a Man’s Head
Ways to Keep Your Partner Happy
Here are some ideas to get you started doing these "little things" she really wants:
1. Light a candle so that she arrives home to a nice environment instead of coming home to the glaring lights of the television and other things.
2.Make her dinner one night. Don’t ask her if she wants you to make dinner. Make her dinner before she gets home.
3. Rub her feet instead of asking her if she wants you to rub her feet. Make it look like you want to do it.
4. Send an eCard in the middle of the day… something cute to remind her how much you really care about her.
5. Send her a text in the middle of the day telling her "I miss your smile from this morning" or "Last night was amazing!" or "The conversation we had last night was great."
6. If she’s going on a business trip, offer to drive her to the airport or pick her up to make her life that much easier.
7. Let her have control of the remote control. Don’t monopolize it for a change. Just give it to her and let her actually sit there and enjoying watching one of her shows. Then you can share one of her interests by watching it with her.
8. Offer to iron one of her shirts or take her clothes to the dry cleaner.
9. Clean up the bathroom without being asked. Don’t just sit there and ignore the mess around the toilet. If you know it drives her crazy to see water splashed all around the sink, dry that area after you use it.
10. If you work out together, enjoy it with her instead of rushing through your own workout and then not letting her workout at the same time.
11. The next time she gives you a massage, give her a massage the next day. Offer it! Don’t just say you’ll give her a massage…do it! (more…)
May 18, 2008
Child love to her mother
Lat Sunday was a Mother’s Day and I was amazed to know that the brother of my grandmother went to Las Vegas. His daughter whose now working in London gave her mother and her father a Las vegas travel gift for 1 week. Wow! That was amazing..A chance to travel and have a wonderful vacation for one week. Not everybody has a chance to travel like that. It is a once in a life time experience that surely you won’t forget..Ohh I wish someday I could travel to Las Vegas too and stay in a nice hotel..I heard that there are nice places there and luxurious hotel that you’ll love to stay for the rest of your life..
A life that you love
"Nobody grows old merely by living a number of years. We grow old by deserting our ideals. Years may wrinkle the skin, but to give up enthusiasm wrinkles the soul."
I read that quotes from an old book and at first glance I have love reading it and understanding it at the same time. Deserting our ideas and what we want in life makes us more sad and that add years to our look and gives wrinkles to our face and the soul. I hope that everybody must chase their happiness and give time to their self to be contented and live a harmonious life with the people they love. Live life to the fullest, love eat healthy foods, take some bodybuilding supplements and love GOD.
Letting go
She looked around her. People were walking along, heads down, hurrying off to work, to school, to the employment agency, to Rue de Berne, telling themselves: ‘I can wait a little longer. I have a dream, but there’s no need to realise it today, besides, I need to earn some money.’ Of course, everyone spoke ill of her profession, but basically, it was all a question of selling her time, like everyone else. Doing things she didn’t want to do, like everyone else. Putting up with horrible people, like everyone else. Handing over her precious body and her precious soul in the name of a future that never arrived, like everyone else. Saying that she still didn’t have enough, like everyone else. Waiting just a little bit longer, like everyone else. Waiting so that she could earn just a little bit more, postponing the realization of her dreams; she was too busy right now, she had a great opportunity ahead of her, loyal clients who were waiting for her, who could pay between three hundred and fifty and one thousand francs a session.
And for the first time in her life, despite all the good things she could buy with the money she might earn – who knows, (more…)
Preparation for a date
Going to a date, you need a preparation on what you wear, what you bring and how you loo. Well, but one thing that you have to remember is to be yourself and enjoy the moments together. But you also need to look great to have a great impression on the person your dating with. Some women do some skin whitening to have a flawless and whiter skin. And some even bought new clothes to wear and some accesories that they can paired with the style and color with their clothes. This is one of the exciting moments when going to a date.. The nervousness and the excitement of the day that you’ve been preparing. So when you go to a date by next week, well, start to plan now.
May 14, 2008
Ways for a romantic honeymoon
A lot of people are asking "how to have a romantic honeymoon and a unforgetable night. Well, since on that night the couple will intimate and exploring each others soul. They can use a candle for the light instead of using the normal light. They can put scented flowers and candles and women should put on the sexy lingerie. Guys must cock ring if they like. Or a vibrating cock ring if there partner is comfortable with that or other kinds of sex toys that surely their night will turn into a unforgetable one. I’m sure both couple will have a pleasure in being together starting this night.
Honeymoon trip
My auntie and her husband is getting ready to their honeymoon trip to Europe and they are both excited because it’s their first time to set then foot on that place. All the Delsey luggage is full on clothes, shoes and other important stuff that they think will be needed in the trip. You can really see the excitment on their face and the joy of being together in this trip. My other aunties even wish they could also visit Europe one of this days since it is known for a place of the lovers.
May 11, 2008
Lovely pair
On of the best couple is to have a common topic to share that they can relate with each other. Someone that can talk and interact whatever the other half will share to you. I met a lot of couple trying to act as they are interested in whatever their special someone on them even though they already find it boring and yucky. I am impressed with one of the couple I met because they seems to have a good interaction in all they topic they discussed. It even be about family, love, war, work, corporate performance management, sport, movies and other situation that they encounter with everyday. I really find it amazing and perfect. For me they are one of the best pair and they can live with each other forever.
May 10, 2008
Wonderful and romantic gift for her
My officemate that have a laptop will be taking a vacation in Manila where her boyfriend is living. Her boyfriend do mentioned of giving her a romantic gift that she will surely treasure and loved. But my officemate love to received a laptop memory where she can upgrade the memory of her laptop and upload all their videos together on their vacation last year. They have lots of video that was not uploaded on the computer because she have only small space left on her laptop for the numbers of video they have during their trip last year to singapore. And now she wanted to upload them all and enjoy watching their good time together in that trip. She is hoping that her boyfriend will gaive her a laptop memory on her vacation.